About Support

The support of others is important when making lifestyle and health habit changes. We do not live in a vacuum. We are social beings. Everyone is subject to social influences and, at times, needs support. But, getting true support for your weight loss efforts is usually not as simple as stating to a friend or loved one "I need your support". Support needs vary. What may seem like support to you, is not what another person would want in a similar situation...or what they think you want now.

Making an assumption that any one person knows exactly what we need at any given time is bound to lead to dissappointment and, potentially, conflict for both of you. Because of this, it is important to clarify your personal need for support at any given time, both for yourself and for those who are there to support you.

Think for a moment about what other people do or say that feels supportive to you as you work to change your food patterns, increase your activity and to make weight loss progress.

While everyone is different with regards to the specific support they like, there are a few common types of support for weight loss that are frequently requested. Consider your needs in each of these areas. It is also important to remember that support needs can change over time. It is natural that as we change, our needs change.

Exceptional support from others begins with you. The more clearly you define your needs, commit to your own change process, and effectively communicate with others, the greater the odds are that your requests will be met.

For most people, emotional well-being and life satisfaction are closely linked to the quality of their social life and close relationships. The loving company of others can help reduce the negative health impact of stress. Sharing one's life and heart is healing. Meaningful, close connections are associated with peace and well-being. Physical changes that result are the same that deep relaxation brings: lower blood pressure, artery wall relaxation and slower heart rate. The immune system works best and the heart thrives in this physical and emotional environment.

But what does it take to develop and maintain relationships? Whether with friends, family or a life partner, good relationships are based in mutual trust, caring and effective communication. Start by asking yourself what "you" like in a friend or partner. Chances are it will be a combination of qualities similar to those below.

The qualities you like in others, others will like in you. Unlike the common saying "opposites attract", truly supportive relationships are more likely when people with similar values for companionship come together. If you want to attract people who have the qualities you value, be sure to work on these qualities yourself. You will be more attractive as a friend to the type of person (people) you seek to meet. And, you will bring out the best in those who are already committed to supporting you.

Finally, social support depends on the community from which you draw. If you are alone much of the time, it may seem that support is not available at all. Or, if you spend a great deal of time with people who are unavailable for meaningful friendship, you may feel alone despite their physical presence. No one has to be lonely. While it is sometimes uncomfortable to begin the process, expanding your social circle may open up important new doors. Reaching out to make friends and joining new groups can make a big difference in your health and happiness.

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